2015

"We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time."
-T.S. Eliot

The end! These two words have two approaches, but I want to see it as an optimistic one. 2015 was a year where I met people- good and bad, I loved and I hated, I befriended and I snubbed.There were times where I was in despair and at times I was hopeful, but ultimately all the paths have led me to where I'm right now. Not as a result of what happened to me but what I chose to be. At many stages I was asked a question, "how's life?" and I had simply one answer: "Life is beautiful." I didn't think twice when I said this. I had the same reply when I was in my worst phase because one thing I have learnt is to be positive. There were times when love was going away from me, almost out of my reach but I had trust and knew how to bring that back: sometimes unsuccessful and at times successful and here I'm because I selected the appropriate. My existence gave me a choice between pain and nothing, I picked the former one owing to the fact that life needs experience and pain has an impression of its own. Friendship being tested was a new challenge I faced but again it was worth it. Family, friends, love, responsibility, opportunities, decisions, future and what not make 2015 for me. I believe I'm back to where I was in the beginning of the year. It is said that change is inevitable but I feel no change as such in a year's time, though my attitude, beliefs have modified. They are not fully established as there are many possibilities of them to change as I engage myself in other discourses of life. The future is still uncertain but not unclear. There are things to explore, my game of life has not yet ended with this "The end" but has taken a new turn towards I don't know what. Maybe tomorrow will tell me! I believe events, experiences, values define a person. And 2015 has been a definition of life to me where I came across almost everything. I saw people change, I saw feelings turning into vapour, I saw families tearing apart, I saw good and I saw bad. And this constitutes to my year 2015. So as the quote by Eliot in the beginning of my piece says, I agree as after 365 days of my life I'm back to where I began from. I bade goodbye to 2014 in a similar fashion with the same ecstasy and elation and delight.

The time has flown without any effort. A year has passed by and I have reached nowhere. There's a lot to build and rebuild. Life has just begun and the works are not over yet. There's a lot more. It is just an end to another year not life.

Sure everything is ending, but not yet!!!!

Life Without ‘A Life’

I know all of you would have begun to wonder what I mean by ‘A Life’. It has multiple layers of meanings but here I mean ‘A Life’ by an offline life; A life without Internet. The idea itself is so scary and the one who comes out alive after a week without having an internet connection has a very strong will power. I know, I know, just a hyperbole to use. Such unconnected life was plaguing me since a few days and so I have come up with this piece. Almost nothing gets done without the internet. The more we rely on it, the more impossible it gets living without it. It is undoubtedly the most reliable machine, man has ever made.

 

Let’s see now how no internet played a havoc in some of our lives-

·        The chargers were of no use as the battery of the phones remained charged up. (First time in the smart phone history)

·        You can’t even put up on social networking sites how bored you are without it, where once you used to update every single activity of yours.

·        Can you imagine yourself digging up a giant dictionary for meanings of the words when it was easy to find on the net, believe me I did that several times.

·        Google Maps- Who remembers the ways now, but without the maps we had to. Trust me it was more difficult than those scientific formulae.

·        It felt like you were put in the prison or your body part was cut off.

 

But keeping an optimistic approach, I feel it was not even that bad, I mean you finally had time for yourself  and you were at peace. I know I am contradicting myself, but come on, for a while I myself felt relieved that nobody can now call me or reach out for me or demand anything of me. This unplugged life made me realize that I had actually been wanting such days for ages. I had proper ‘sleeps’ at night and a lot of relaxation. What else do you want from LIFE!!

 

So, a life without ‘A Life’- No, no not true. (For me at least) 

Chasing Food Is Better Than Chasing Boys!

 

I always wonder what is in a guy? Why do girls run behind them when they have “better things” to follow? I can pinpoint many “better things” which are more reliable than men are. Let’s say, Food! Customizing your own food is great fun, but can you do the same for a guy? I don’t think so. Come on girls, let’s have some entertainment.

 

Here are some reasons, why becoming a foodie is better than becoming a “man-stricken”:

 

1.     Food can be all delicious and perfect but are boys perfect? No, not even one I know!

 

2.     Food comes with labels. We know its ingredients, but we can never know what is going on in a guy’s mind.

 

3.     We can afford a steak, yeah it is expensive but definitely not more than those Nike shoes you gifted him on his birthday.

 

4.     Your family will love if you bring them some Chinese food but imagine getting your boyfriend home without a prior notice.

 

5.     Food never asks you to make eye contact while it is in your mouth.

 

6.     You gain more pounds suddenly; I can already hear them shout. But food, you can hog it till your mouth wants.

 

7.     You don’t have to worry about your make up and attire while with those yummy tacos and Panini.

 

8.     Food will never think that your sister is hotter than you.

 

9.     You will never mind if everybody in the world will love the same food as you love.

 

10.                        Food will never show you tantrums but boys will certainly do especially on this post

 

So Girlies, coming to grab a bite????t

To Mamma

 

You held me gently on the day I took my first breath,

You held my hand when I walked my first step,

You held me close,when my tears would start to fall,

You held me to show, all of your care for me!

 

You helped me punctuate my words,

You guided me through right and wrong,

You helped bend me into all you knew I could be,

You comforted my hurts that never showed!

 

You are now wrinkling and I know it is your turn to be held by me,

Your hands are stumbling and need my touch,

You are the most beautiful woman I know,

And the reason I am me!

Everything Happens For A Reason!

 

There was a little girl who was all set to go to Shimla for the holidays with her family. But on the day of departure, due to heavy traffic the family is unable to reach the station on time and miss their train. Everybody comes home disappointed. The little girl is very upset and blames God for spoiling her holidays. The next day all the headlines read, “Train to Shimla goes off track; All dead.” Looking at this, the family is stunned and satisfied at the same time. They immediately thank God for saving their lives.

 

This was just an anecdote. But some things take place that has no relevance at times but they just happen. You must have never thought about it, but they do come about. The more I think about this, the more I believe in it. I trust God and I know whatever happens has a reason behind it. He does things for some cause we aren’t aware of. Let us say, you flunk in an exam, obviously you will fail because you were out hanging with friends and catching up on your favorite television show on the day prior to your test. Or let us take it in an another way, you get a new job, this too has a logic, you got through because you applied for it, you interviewed well and the company thought you were the best candidate for that post. See, didn’t I tell you everything happens for a reason.

 

I believe nothing happens out of chance or good luck, it has a thought deep down somewhere. The only problem is that it takes a while for us to realize the grounds. You come across many people and for some you know right away that they are meant to be yours. Everybody comes in our life to serve some purpose or the other. They can be anybody and can stay with us for any period of time: Brief or Long. But once you lock your eyes with  them and at that very moment you know that they will affect you in a profound way. Some may give you happiness and some may even give you pain but remember problems contribute to your mental growth. Without obstacles, your life would be a smooth, straight, flat path leading to nowhere. Life would become dull and uninspiring. So, facing problem is no doubt tough but that too happens for a reason and that reason is decided by God and He can never harm His followers. The bad experiences too can be learned from.

 

For instance, someone hurts you or breaks your trust or heart; forgive them for they have helped you understand what trust is and have taught you to be more cautious the next time you choose people. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally because they are the ones who encouraged you to love and to open your heart.

 

You have all the rights in the world to hold your head high and walk. Appreciate yourself and your life for what it is. Break free and do whatever you wish for. Infact I suggest you to go for the things first, you are afraid of. Believe me it will be thrilling and electrifying and stimulating. Only you can make your life anything you wish. Do what you love and see the magic. Most importantly, if you love someone, tell them and keep reminding them. Live without regrets and finally look forward to learning a new lesson each day and enjoying your journey.

 

BECAUSE EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!!!!!

 

 

 

 

         HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH LIFE?????

A new morning brings you a lot of opportunities; grab them. You are the most important person of your life- every morning look at yourself in the mirror and utter these words, " I Love Myself" and see how lovely your days become. Do not think what people say or do or talk, focus on how you live your life. Salute yourselves for what you are and for surviving all the odds rather than comparing your life with the others'. Let all the sadness and negativity flow away from your soul and let it become a pure one.

Remind yourself that your life is under your control. Do not let people and your past bother your present. Believe in your strength and let that make you come out of the horrifying experiences if you had any. Let your firmness rule over you. Remember that your life is yours and it hangs in your hands. Stay rigid instead of pulling back and letting your life dangle until it just has had enough and decides to drop. Fall in love. Compromises and sacrifices are a part of love but never let yourself down for the sake of your partner. Remember you have your self respect, do not actually fall for the person because it is both of you in that relationship not only the other person. Put forth your choices in place of listening to your mates'.

Never sit around and feel sorry for yourself because if you sympathize with your life, the people will obviously show pity towards you. Fix this in yourself that you are on this globe to attain everybody's condolence or comfort, you are here to stand up for yourself and show it to the world what you are. Having hot chocolate is much better than sitting in pain and misery, then why not go for the first option?

Soon enough your life will go on a track which you always wanted. Nobody or their life is perfect but if you choose the correct path through your troubles, your life will be the one you always dreamt for, that too with a bright future. Nothing would be a regret and nothing would be of the past.

Like the saying goes' "Do not let your life be controlled by PEOPLE and PAST EXPERIENCES!"

INDEED!


 

                     To My Best Friend!

You see right through my pretenses,
You look right through my mask,
You know just when I need a hug,
I never need to ask.

You show up when I feel low,
You are there when I'm depressed.
You tolerate all of my rude comments,
You help me out when I get mad.

You see all my dark,
You see all my light.
You are always by my side,
Even when I'm not right.

You cheer me when I'm sad,
You hear me out when I want to talk.
When I'm happy you hear me shout,
You catch me when I fall.

You're the light in my day,
You're the moon in my night.
How did you come to earn my trust,
When I trust no one else at all?